Although in 2017, gender equality has become one of the most important things in the world, when it comes to wedding-related issues, most guides are strictly female-centric. While you are bound to find pages and volumes dealing with the way a bridesmaid should act prior to the wedding, groomsmen are usually left out in the open to fend for themselves. In order to try and fix this injustice, here are 7 wedding tips every groomsman needs to know.
Offer Your Help
Sure, this may seem a bit straightforward, but you can never underestimate the amount of work that needs to be done prior to a wedding. Sometimes, the groom won’t be able to focus on the wedding itself, because he will be pressured from all sides by completely menial tasks, such as guest-lists, the reception and the bachelor party. Taking at least one of these responsibilities on yourself will be a major relief to your soon-to-be-wed friend.
Sure, it is in the nature of male friendships to be seemingly mean towards each other, but there is a great difference between making ‘yo-mama jokes‘ and belittling the institution of marriage to the future groom. Even people who are most committed to settling down will have their doubts, and the last thing they need is you pouring oil onto the fire. If you have nothing nice to say about their decision to get married, the least you can do is stay silent.
Partake in the Wedding Planning
Earlier on, we talked about helping your friend with some minor tasks, but there is no reason why you shouldn’t partake in the planning of the wedding itself. Sure, it doesn’t have to be something major like choosing the cake, but you could at the very least look for suitable wedding car hire in Sydney and cross one major item off their list.
A Wedding Gift
This particular issue is not strictly groomsman related, since all the guests will have to deal with it at one point or another. However, as a groomsman, your gift can’t be just good. It needs to be perfect, so you need to put no small amount of thought into it and come up with something both valuable and personal enough to bring tears to your friend’s eyes.
Being Up to The Occasion
Even though there is no competition, the bride will spend no small amount of time choosing perfect dresses for her bridesmaids. As her retinue, they need to look dazzling, but not so dazzling that they overshadow the bride herself. You need to do the same for your friend, so choose your attire wisely.
Words of Reassurance
Earlier on, we talked about refraining from negative comments, but sometimes this won’t be enough. Sometimes, you will have to reassure your buddy that he is making the right choice. Of course, we are not talking about manipulation, since your friend already knows all the reasons why he is getting married in the first place. All you need to do is give a verbal assertion of your trust in his judgement.
Spread the Word
Chances are that you will be a part of a larger company, in which case, implementing these rules into your own behavior won’t be your only task. You will also have to enforce these rules of behavior amongst your friends. If you manage to do this, you will do your friend a favor he will never be able to repay, even if he doesn’t openly acknowledge it.
These seven tips, or unspoken rules, may seem menial or obvious to you, but you would be surprised just how much they can mean to someone who is at a turning point in their life. All you need to do is find a way to stand by your friend, since he has more than deserved it.